Jarak Boleh Selalu Ada. Tapi Kita Lebih Kuat Dari Dia

Sayang, sesungguhnya aku sudah lupa bagaimana rasa hangat yang menguar dari buku-buku jarimu. Saat dia menemukan tanganku. Menggenggamnya lama lalu meninggalkan rasa nyaman di sana. Dalam momen-momen seperti itu bahkan kita tak perlu bicara.
Selepas sekian hari kamu pergi kadang aku mesti berpikir keras untuk mengingat bagaimana profil wajahmu. Berusaha tidak lupa sinar yang membuatku tetap jatuh cinta sampai hari ini, saat kamu tersenyum dan melihat langsung ke mataku.

Menjalani ini bersamamu berarti bersahabat dengan jarak yang akan selalu ada. Tapi apa yang harus ditakutkan? Toh kita lebih kuat dari dia.

Kamu boleh bilang ini menggelikan. Tapi aku tetap mudah rindu, tak peduli sesering apapun kamu tinggalkan

Tidak ada kata biasa dalam jeda. Buatku ini benar adanya. Sudah berkali-kali kita dihadapkan pada temu-pisah-lalu bersatu kembali. Dan setiap kali kamu pergi aku masih saja selalu rindu setengah mati.
Setiap kali aku bilang rindu, kamu selalu berkata dengan bijak bahwa aku mesti bersabar dulu. Membiarkanmu menuntaskan kewajibanmu. Toh di akhir hari kamu akan kembali ke pelukku.

Menenangkanku jadi penawar rindumu. Sementara untukku, mengatakan rasa ingin bertemu meyakinkan ada rasa hangat di hati yang tidak terberangus kesibukan dan jarak selama kamu tak di sisiku.

Tidak banyak yang bisa kita lakukan selain menunggu. Menjalani hari sebaik mungkin sembari berharap Tuhan menjaga. Selama kita tak bisa menatap mata

Kita sudah berubah jadi penunggu ulung yang handal. Setiap sedang tidak bersama ada sekian banyak doa yang terus terapal.
Setiap malam sebelum tidur kamu bercerita apa yang terjadi hari itu. Sesekali mengirim foto agar saya memahami apa yang sedang kamu lihat di sana. Paling tidak kita masih bisa terhubung walau hanya lewat gambar yang sama. Agar jarak tidak lagi terasa bejat dan menyiksa.
Tidak banyak yang bisa dilakukan selama harus menunggu, sampai hari kepulanganmu. Kamu pun tak pernah meminta banyak hal. Sedikit pun tak ada permintaan saya harus setia, tidak boleh keluar dengan siapa, harus sampai rumah jam berapa. Satu saja pesanmu dalam setiap kecup di dahi sebelum kemudian meninggalkan saya sementara:

Jalani hidup sebaik-baiknya tanpa saya. Jika hidupmu berjalan baik, berarti ini memang cinta.

Sampai kapanpun jarak ini akan selalu ada. Tapi kita lebih kuat dari dia

Kita tidak bisa memilih akan menjalani hubungan macam apa. Jika memang Tuhan menempatkan kita dalam ekuasi jarak, Dia pun pasti sudah mempersiapkan kekuatan untuk menghadapinya.
Aku berjanji tak akan meminta jarak ini dihapuskan. Sebab darinya kita sudah banyak belajar soal mempertahankan perasaan. Tak akan juga kuminta Tuhan meringkas tantangan. Dari situ kita perlahan mencintai dengan tak lagi kekanakan.
Bagi kita jarak akan selalu ada. Tapi kita dan kuatnya rasa selalu lebih kuat dari dia.

Saya percaya. Semoga kamu pun juga.

Saya Jelas Merindukanmu. Tapi Saya Tak Pernah Keberatan Menunggu

Bisa bertemu setiap waktu bagi kita adalah kemewahan. Dalam hubungan ini jarak sudah jadi sahabat dekat yang harus selalu dipeluk mesra. Bahkan kalau perlu dikecup di keningnya. Karena sampai kapan pun dia akan selalu ada.
Setiap perpisahan hendak tiba, kita selalu bercanda. Kita ini kan sudah dewasa. Tak apalah kalau tidak selalu bersama.
Perasaan ini bukan noda saus sambal yang mudah luntur saat terkena cairan penghilang noda. Dia tak akan ke mana-mana.
Hanya saja mungkin kamu tidak tahu bagaimana selama ini diam-diam saya merindukanmu. Ijinkan kali ini saya bercerita tentang itu.

Rindu ini selalu mengerdil dalam hal-hal remeh. Mulai dari gestur menyendokkan makanan, sampai kebiasaanmu memberi arahan — di sana kamu dirindukan

Tolong jangan kecewa jika saya bilang saya tidak pernah rindu impian dan semua hal besar yang pernah kita bincangkan. Setiap kita berjauhan rasa rindu justru muncul dari hal-hal kecil yang sebelumnya tidak terbayangkan.

Melihat kawan sejawat mendekatkan sendok berisi kuah soto ke mulutnya, gambaran tentangmu muncul di depan mata. Sedikit tersenyum karena rindu, saya mengingat bagaimana gaya khasmu setiap makan. Sendok mendatangi mulut dengan rapi, tak akan ada makanan yang tersisa sama sekali.

Di tengah kemacetan yang membuat saya hampir frustasi, terbersit ingatan tentang gerak tanganmu yang mengambil kaca mata hitam yang terselip di pelindung matahari. Memasangnya, kemudian melirik ke sebelah kiri — lalu menggenggam tangan saya. Kita berpegangan tangan sembari bersabar menunggu kemacetan sedikit mereda.
Saya rindu saat di sisimu saya selalu merasa baik-baik saja.

Ada malam-malam saat saya merasa rindu ingin dipeluk dari belakang.Terganggu oleh dengkuranmu juga tak membuat saya keberatan

Saat sedang rindu sekali kadang saya berharap bisa meminjam lenganmu dan membawanya ke sini. Dipeluk sebentar sudah bisa membuat nyaman. Paling tidak ada bahu yang bisa direngkuh untuk pegangan. Ada dada atas yang bisa disandari demi membuat beban terasa sedikit ringan.
Kamu tidak akan percaya kalau saat kita berjauhan bahkan terganggu suara dengkurmu juga tak akan membuat saya keberatan. Sesuatu yang selama ini saya keluhkan berubah jadi pengantar tidur yang paling dirindukan. Dengan ikhlas saya lakukan apapun supaya bisa membawamu ke sini. Agar rengkuh kasual dan halus dengkurmu bisa segera dinikmati.

Saya rindu melihat matamu. Berbincang tak tentu arah bersamamu. Menjadi 2 makhluk yang paling sok tahu

Ditemani beberapa gelas kopi dan camilan, kita sering menghabiskan senja dengan bertukar pandangan. Menurutmu pekerjaan saya ini aneh sekali. Kamu sering bilang saya ini orang beruntung yang layak menantang diri untuk bersujud tiap hari. Bagaimana tidak — buatmu saya ini menghasilkan uang dari hobi. Sementara kamu harus berjaga sepanjang malam demi memastikan operasi berjalan rapi.
Sementara buat saya, kamu adalah orang paling bejat yang pernah ada. Enak sekali hidupmu bisa pergi ke negeri antah berantah saat panggilan tiba. Meninggalkan saya, keluarga, dan semua masalahmu sementara. Kemudian kembali dan disambut hangat — karena rindu sudah mengendap sekian lama.
Saya sering rindu melihat matamu. Rindu celotehan-celotehan ngawurmu. Rindu mengusap bagian atas bibirmu demi menyingkirkan ampas kopi dari situ. Rindu gesturmu mengacak rambut dan menggigit bibir setiap saya ajukan pertanyaan yang susah dijawab saat itu.

Meski sedang tidak bersama, jangan pernah merasa saya lupa. Bagi saya — lewat berbagai spektrum — kamu akan selalu ada

Barangkali saya memang tidak sering bilang bahwa saya membutuhkanmu. Kalimat, “Cepat pulang. Saya rindu.” tidak dengan mudah keluar segampang itu.

Sebab sesungguhnya saya hanya tak ingin memberatkanmu.

Tapi walau kita sedang tidak bersama, meski saya lebih sering kelihatan biasa saja — jangan pernah merasa khawatir bahwa saya lupa. Yeah, sesekali memang saya harus membuka profile picturemu di media sosial agar bayangan tentang profil wajahmu selalu ada. Namun percayalah, dalam berbagai spektrum kamu tak pernah sedetik pun meninggalkan saya.

Sun sayang dari yang lebih sering memilih rindu dalam diam,

Saya

 

How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work

No one's ever said that long distance relationships are easy, but they don't have to ruin your relationship either. With the right commitment and communication, long distance relationships can actually be more stable than geographically close relationships.Simple adjustments to your attitude and lifestyle can help you keep your loved one in your life.

Part 1 of 3: Preserving Normality When You Can

1. Stay in contact. Since you won't be seeing each other in person, it's important to establish and maintain an emotional connection as often as you can. These don't always have to be long, in-depth conversations. Frequent communication, no matter how minor, will show that you care enough to put in the time and effort into the relationship and it’s easier to keep up to date with each other’s lives.If you allow large (days at a time) gaps to pass by, your everyday experiences fade into the background, and you will have to start from scratch every time you speak.

• Learn your partner's preferred method for communication. Be sure to try a variety of technologies to see what works best for you both.You may try texting, emailing, or facetime to keep up to date with little daily details of your lives.
• Work around your schedules. If you know you're going to be too busy to communicate, let your partner know in advance and try to stay in contact as best you can. If you're not as busy as your partner, remain flexible and focus on something of interest to you.

2. Talk about the mundane, little things. Don't feel as though every conversation needs to be a thoughtful discussion about your relationship, hopes, or dreams. Instead, focus on the little things that couples who live together would, such as grocery shopping, doing chores around the house, or redecorating.This gives the feeling of creating a home together, something you both can look forward to.

• Talking about the boring or mundane parts of your day can also foster connection and interdependence, the foundation of relationships.

 

3. Visit often. Try to make the time to visit each other as often as possible or as often as your budget permits. You need to see each other in person at every opportunity.Make a regular visiting schedule or at least make plans for the next visit as soon as each one ends. Face-to-face communication is just as important as having relationship satisfaction, commitment, and trust.

• Create your own rituals around your visits, like eating at a favorite restaurant, enjoying a quiet night together at home, or sharing a favorite activity.
• Smooth out travel logistics so they don't get in the way of your time together. Know where to meet at the airport or train station. Learn to travel with one bag or leave basics at your partner's home to save time at the airport.
• Meet away from home sometimes, too. Visit a place together that is new to both of you or choose a place that is halfway between both of you.

4. Get to know each other. Just like any relationship, you should spend some time really getting to know and understand your partner. When talking, take note of things your partner enjoys the most (like hobbies or day-to-day activities) and do a little research on it so you have something more to discuss. Knowing each other's preferences will also help when you want to exchange gifts. Gift exchange is just another way to communicate your feelings for each other over the long distance. 

 

5. Remember that your partner is human. Distance makes the heart grow fonder, but can also make you idealize your partner. While this can make your relationship stable, extreme idealization (thinking your partner is perfect) will make it more difficult to reunite with the actual person^.

• Maintaining day-to-day communication about your everyday lives will help humanize your partner and become aware of changes your partner might be going through.

6. Support each other, even over the distance. Be there for your partner if your partner is ever in trouble, hurt, or for whatever reason. You need to make yourself available to help so your partner knows you care. If your partner ends up dealing with important issues alone, your partner will eventually not need you.Interdependence refers to the willingness to act against your own self-interest for the benefit of you partner or for your relationship.Instead, supporting each other creates an interdependence that is crucial for a long distance relationship.

• Interdependence can be seen in everyday activities like compromising about decisions and long-term behaviors like quitting smoking.

7. Create trust. Trust in a relationship is vital, regardless of distance.Try your best to be faithful and avoid temptation. If you do make a mistake, it’s especially important to be honest and tell your partner the truth in cases where lying would benefit you. For example, if you put yourself in a position of temptation (like going to a bar), lying about your whereabouts would benefit you personally, but would benefit your relationship if you were honest. Frequent use of email and online resources can help cultivate trust in romantic relationships. 

 

8. Be committed to each other. Be open and honest by volunteering private information.You should both be morally committed to each other, continuing the relationship because of personal values, not because of social pressures.Personal values include beliefs like “staying faithful is part of my identity.” Social pressures involve the perception of society's approval or disapproval. For example, “My mom would be devastated if I cheated on my girlfriend and she broke up with me.”

• Watch out for behaviors where your partner tries to manipulate you into doing something that only benefits your partner, like lying about an emergency to get you to answer your phone during an important business meeting. If dishonesty and manipulation become a part of your communication, then you must revisit why your relationship lacks trust.

Part 2 of 3: Doing Things Together and Bonding

1. Share something. Create something that you both can access and share, such as an online blog or scrapbook. This will give you a new way to communicate while also giving you the sense of creating something together.You might create a food blog with your culinary adventures, Instagram your workouts, or create a special Twitter hashtag just for you two.

• Share your online calendars too. If you miss each other, you'll have someplace to look to see why. You'll also have something to talk about, as in "How was the concert last night?"

2. Do the same things at the same time. This will make the distance between you seem smaller and more bridgeable.You'll feel closer together and you'll be bonding at the same time. If you're unsure of things to do, try one of the following:

• Plan to cook the same meal on the same day. If neither of you are into cooking, you might just plan to eat the same cuisine or snack.
• Read the same book or article. You can even take turns reading it aloud to each other.
• Watch a TV show or movie simultaneously. Keep a call open and share your reactions.
• Use video phones to chat while having meals or watching movies together.
• Sleep together. You can both get on the phone or video chat and fall asleep together. Doing this occasionally can make you feel closer.

3. Learn together. Choose a project you'd both like to do, like take an online language class or learn how to knit. Do whatever you're both interested in. This will give you a wonderful sense of shared history and you'll have something that really ties you together. It's also a great way to spend time together while giving you something to talk about. 

•  Take advantage of the internet. You could play an online multiplayer game or something traditional, like chess. Either way, you can chat while playing, giving you a greater feeling of togetherness  

4. Make each other feel special. Try to do little things that let the other person know that you care. You may write love letters and send them in the mail. Or, send small gifts, cards, or flowers for no reason. It's easier than ever to find ways to send almost anything to your partner.

• Don't feel as though you can send something that makes a grand gesture. The little, frequent things are just as important as making the person feel special on special occasions.

5. Pursue common interests. Try new things together, even if it means doing them apart. This way, you're not just talking on the phone, which can be a pitfall of long-distance relationships if it's the only thing you ever do. Instead, do something romantic like stargazing while you're on the phone. Synchronize and set your watches to go off at the same time every day, and make it a point to think of each other when your watch goes off.

• Remind yourself that your partner is thinking of you while you do these activities together, even though you're far apart. It can strengthen your bond.

6. Create connections. It's important to feel like you have a place in your partner's life. Try meeting one another's friends, online or off. This will help you understand more of your partner's life and make communication easier.

• If one of you must someday move so that you can be together, that person will be leaving friends behind. Start right away to begin a new social and professional network for the partner who is moving.

Part 3 of 3: Setting Expectations and Boundaries

1. Discuss the nature of your relationship. Ask the important questions right away to make sure you are both clear on the nature of the relationship. Decide what kind of relationship you both want. For example, are you dating, seeing each other, boyfriend-girlfriend, or engaged? You should also define the exclusivity of the relationship (whether you'll see other people). For example, you might ask, "Are you open to relocating if the relationship becomes more serious?" or "What are you looking to get out of this relationship?"

• While these can be hard questions to ask and might lead to difficult conversations, defining the relationship will save you great heartache and misunderstanding later. This is important to build the relationship you both want.

2. Talk through doubts, uncertainty, and fear together. Explore the scary and difficult subjects along with the good. Consider this as a chance to explore your feelings together honestly. Recognizing your partner’s ups and downs while you are physically apart will make you more accepting and comfortable with their low points when you see each other in person.

• It's understandable that you might only want to focus on the positive. But, you should let your partner know your low points.Both of you are human, and it’s ok to not always be happy.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Saat Sekadar Bilang ‘Kangen’ Terasa Egois Sekali: Kamu Memilih Menanti

Kangen. Kangen. Kangen.
Terkadang kata sesederhana ini bisa jadi sulit diucapkan. Saat jarak dan kesibukan jadi penghalang. Hatimu sudah berteriak kencang ingin meluapkan rasa. Namun otak dan lidahmu berkata, jangan dulu — tahan saja. Jangan memberatkannya.
Semakin dewasa bahkan rasa kangen harus dipikirkan berulang kali sebelum diungkapkan jadi kata dan dibiarkan menguar ke udara. Perasaan paling nyata macam ini bisa terdengar egois sekali. Dan kamu lebih memilih untuk menanti.

Rindu memang menghangatkan hati. Tapi rindu juga memberatkan, sesekali

Dia bukan pergi untuk alasan macam-macam. Kamu jelas tahu bahwa dia meninggalkanmu sebab urusan kewajiban.
Melepas punggungnya pergi menjauh memang bukan hal yang mudah dilakoni. Rasanya kamu ingin menyublim jadi udara. Atau memasukkan diri dalam kantung kemejanya. Bukan karena apa-apa. Kamu hanya ingin kalian bersama.
Mengatakan bahwa kamu rindu memang lebih sering menghangatkan hati. Namun mengungkapkannya sering-sering juga harus diakui memberatkan langkah kaki. Padahal kamu selalu ingin jadi pasangan yang menguatkan selama ini.

Mengungkapkan rindu membuatnya mengkhawatirkanmu di sini. Padahal cinta yang dewasa adalah cinta yang mandiri

Cinta yang dewasa adalah cinta yang bertahan dalam berbagai keadaan. Meski sedang banyak pekerjaan dan sebenarnya butuh pelukan. Walau tak bisa langsung bercerita dan ditanggapi saat butuh dukungan.
Rindu, jelas lebih mudah diungkapkan. Namun pertanyaannya apakah ia menguatkan? Apakah rasa yang bebas dikeluarkan memampatkan pondasi yang dibangun mati-matian?
Rasanya rasanya jawaban atas pertanyaan itu lebih banyak tidaknya. Mengungkapkan rindu sering-sering hanya membuatnya mengkhawatirkanmu di sini. Lebih baik kamu bertahan menghadapi semua sendiri. Sebab kamu sungguh mengerti. Ini bukan cinta anak kecil lagi.

Waktu kata ‘Kangen’ terdengar egois sekali, kamu memilih bersabar dan menanti

Rindu? Pasti.
Tapi bukan berarti rindu tidak bisa dihadapi. Rindu kalian kali ini adalah rindu yang bisa dijinakkan dengan kesibukan. Rindu yang akan mereda selepas disapih dengan penjelasan dan kesabaran. Rindu kali ini bukan rindu keras kepala. Dia mau diajak bekerjasama dan mendengar seperti manusia dewasa.
Ada masa saat mengungkapkan rindu terdengar egois sekali. Ungkapan kangen hanya memberatkan langkahnya yang mesti mencintaimu dalam sabar dan sunyi. Kalian tidak dipertemukan hanya untuk saling memberatkan macam ini.
Untuk itu, kamu memilih menanti.

How to Speak Clearly

Speaking clearly and efficiently can make it much easier to get your ideas across. You'll need to slow down your speech, enunciate your syllables, and practice your diction. Take the time to practice speaking, and correct yourself if you mess up.

Method 1 of 3: Slowing Down

1. Take a deep breath. Calm yourself down before you start speaking, so that your lungs won't run out of air. Distill your thoughts – do not spill them. If you dive into speech without taking time to ground yourself, you may speak more quickly and slur your words. Take the time to center yourself, and proceed mindfully from there. 
2. Articulate your Word. Pronounce each syllable individually. Syll - a - ble. Take it very slowly, at first, until each sound is clear and distinct. Gradually speed up your speech and decrease the space between words until you are speaking normally.

• Make sure you actually stop the air for consonants like 't' and 'b'. Differentiate between your vowels.

• Don't expect to speak with perfect clarity right away. You may need to practice this for several hours each day, and you may need to practice more to master difficult words.

• Practice when you're alone – in the car, or walking down the street; when cleaning, or knitting, or standing in front of the mirror. You can slow down your syllables in conversation, but you may make more progress if you devote some serious time to honing your speech  

3. Speak more slowly. It can be incredibly helpful to give your words an extra second or two to fully come out of your mouth. Pausing also works, because pausing allows the person you're speaking to, to digest all of the words you've just said. 

Method 2 of 3: Honing Speech Mechanics

1. Practice your grammar. If you use poor grammar, your thoughts and ideas may not come across as clearly as you'd like. Speak as though you're composing an essay or a letter: with patience, poise, and precision. 

• Avoid speaking in run-on sentences. If you let yourself ramble, your listeners might miss the point. Try to break up your thoughts into comprehensible chunks

2.  Expand your vocabulary. One apt word can be much clearer than a flurry of circumlocution. Try to find exactly the word you need &ndsah; then use it effectively. Be careful not to use words incorrectly or out of context; you may obscure the clarity of what you're trying to say, and you will not be taken seriously.

• The caveat: you'll need to make sure that the people you're speaking to also know these words. Keep audience in mind. Use simpler words, when possible.
• Reading is a great way to expand vocabulary. Read books, articles, essays; read things that fascinate you, and read things that you wouldn't normally read. Whenever you come across a word that you don't know, look it up.
• Try keeping a list of useful, powerful words. The more you use them in context, the more natural it will feel – and the better your word-selection may become.

3.  Think before you speak. If you prepare your words, you may run less risk of slipping up. Even if you don't plan out the exact words that you're going to say, you can take a moment to think through your ideas and clarify them in your mind.

• Silently say the words to yourself before you say them aloud. This might help you ensure that you've gotten the pronunciation right.

4. Speak with inflection. Questions should ascend in pitch at the end. Statements should inflect somewhat deeper, with finality. Notice which syllables and words get emphasis. Try exaggerating your inflection, the way you would if you were reading a story to a small child.

Method 3 of 3: Exercising Diction

 1. Practice saying tongue twisters. If you work on phrases that are difficult to pronounce, you may find it easier to speak clearly in everyday conversation. Start slowly, and gradually work your way up to a normal pace. Identify problem syllables: if you notice that you have trouble enunciating your "B" sounds, try saying tongue twisters that play on the "B" syllable.

• For "B" words, try: Bill had a billboard. Bill also had a board bill. The board bill bored Bill, so Bill sold his billboard and paid his board bill. Then the board bill no longer bored Bill, but though he had no board bill, neither did he have his billboard!
• For "D" words, try: Did Doug dig David's garden or did David dig Doug's garden? or Do drop in at the Dewdrop Inn.
• For "F" sounds, try: Four furious friends fought for the phone or Five flippant Frenchmen fly from France for fashions.
• For "J" sounds, try: James just jostled Jean gently or Jack the jailbird jacked a jeep.

2. Repeat the phrases over and over. Start very slowly and clearly, enunciating each syllable: "Five flipp-ant French-men fly from France for fash-ions." Get faster and faster while maintaining clarity. If you trip over words, stop and start again. With determined practice, you may learn to conquer difficult syllables.   

3.    Be confident in your speech. Don't be afraid to speak loudly and clearly. Reciting anything that someone else has written—poems, books, tongue twisters—is great for practicing confidence. Follow through with your words: finish as strong as you start! Be sure of what you intend to say, and the meaning will shine through.

• If you tend to mumble or slur your words, it can be difficult to break from the pattern and speak clearly. When you recite words, try to forget about the fact that you are speaking. Focus only on the words, their meaning, their beauty. Try not to overthink it.

Tips

• Keep it simple. Sometimes, a simple explanation is all you need to speak clearly.
• Try listening to yourself using a voice recorder. This may help you determine what you need to work on.
• When you are speaking: open your mouth bigger, and over-articulate the word. It's like singing: you need to open your mouth. You may not realize it, but opening your mouth expresses your voice.
• Practice in front of your friends and family. See if they understand you better once you've been practicing for a while.
• When in a conversation, take some time to ask if the other person understands what you're trying to say. If they don't, try rephrasing what you just said.
• Singers learn to press their tongue into the back of their lower teeth and keep it there, except when using words with letters that require you to move your tongue (such as "L," "T," and "M/N" sounds). This allows air to move more clearly through your mouth without your tongue getting in the way. But be careful when using this tip: you could be focusing too much on the form of your mouth. and not the words you are supposed to be saying.
• Always speak at an appropriate volume.

Warnings

Don't overthink it when you speak to others. You may end up making the situation worse. Try to be natural; try to think about exactly what you are saying now, not about what you need to say next. Get into a flow.

 

How to Do a Public Speech

If you are reading this, then you are probably wondering, "How on earth am I going to stand in front of all these people and give a speech?" Well, read the article below and watch as you simply can't wait to give the speech.

Steps

•  Don't worry about the speech. If it's well-prepared and well rehearsed, you'll do just fine. And don't worry about people hating your speech. If the speech is really good, it's the audience's problem if they hate it. 
• Do whatever relaxes you before you make your speech. It might help to bring an iPod or book to where you're going just for this reason.Then take deep breaths, and think, 'I can do this. Those people out there won't know what's coming.'. Repeat ten times, if necessary.  
• Speak in a relaxed manner. Pretend you're talking to yourself, or focus on a close friend you may want to invite to hear your speech. If you want, pretend everybody you're talking to are bunnies! What's scary about bunnies? But make sure you don't laugh while thinking about bunnies, because this will mess up your whole speech, especially on something serious. If it's really serious, like war or outbreaks of disease, step 5 will help more than this one. 
• Say one sentence, then look out at the audience, and give a friendly smile to all the people. Then read another sentence and so on.  
• Try not to think too much about your speech. If you would like, pretend you're in a game show and if you finish the speech, you'll get a thousand dollars! Don't worry, because soon, it WILL be over. Take a bow and walk offstage.
   

 

How to Be Confident and Speak in Public Without Preparation

You never know when you might have to give an impromptu speech in public without any time to prepare. Whether your teacher calls on you in class with no warning, or you're asking to give a toast on the spot at your friend's wedding, it's a good idea to know how to speak with confidence, anytime, anywhere. See Step 1 to find out how to make it seem like you were born for public speaking.

1.      Review what you are asked to speak about.

2.      Think about what you are asked to speak about. Use keywords to help to get material on what you want to speak on from your mind.

3.      Be calm and breathe freely.

4.      Don't think that you may make fool of yourself. there is no way you are going to make a fool of yourself. It takes a lot of courage to speak in public about anything especially without preparing for it earlier.

5.      Try to remember anything you can which has relevance to the topic. Any thing from news articles, scientific journals, or even personal experiences.

6.      Speak freely and smoothly, and speak as if to a friend to whom you have spoken for a long time.

7.      Try to keep your speech an appropriate length of at least 2 minutes.

8.      Don't pay heed to the expressions of your audience. many people have blank expressions or frown when they concentrate on something.

9.      Start with a good salutation and keep it light. Smile and let people know you are comfortable with speaking to them.

10.  Don't talk as if you know everything and are some kind of "smart guy", who just can't be proven wrong.

11.  When you get stuck, murmur something and let your audience know that you are thinking, not as if you have forgotten something. Say "umm" or "How should I put it?" Or even short "Errrr" would also do. Remember, don't get dumbfounded on stage and suddenly stop speaking and look around blankly.

12.  Finally, Keep your audience engaged, don't get boring and use difficult words which you know the audience won't understand.

13.  Don't get judgmental and be prejudiced in your speech.